What are your strengths?
This post is inspired by an exercise. It's very simple - you ask people (your friends, family, co-workers, clients, FB community) to answer 1 question:
What are my top 3 strengths?
The idea is to learn what other people see in you. To take a risk, to be vulnerable. To test your assumptions.
I think one of my superpowers is kindness - but do other people see it?
Maybe others see strengths in me that I wasn't aware of. Maybe it would be nice to hear it, to know it, to be supported. To feel seen.
To tell you the truth, I didn't really see the huge value in doing it, but I thought, why not. Might as well. Let's give it a try. And I am so glad I did.
I posted in on FaceBook, of all places. The results touched me to tears.
I've got responses like:
Your ability to hold space with an open heart - where I feel safe and fully heard and seen
Your ability to make me feel like I’m accepted just as I am, and celebrated!! Your supportive nature.
Your ability to create safe spaces for people to share and be vulnerable
You're very good at creating and holding space.
You really care about people.
Compassionate, supportive & caring.
Awake Presence, deep listening, beautiful facilitator of heart-opening experiences
Your big, huge loving , generous and compassionate heart
Your compassion and love for people truly shows so people feel seen and heard.
Non-judgmental acceptance of people
Holding space without expectations or judgement.
These people see me. Especially when I read "exuberance" - that's so me. My values of safety, acceptance and kindness - are seen. I love and I care - and people see it in me. I want to be real, authentic, vulnerable and kind - and this is how people see me. I AM touched by this exercises much more than I thought.
My final thoughts - I highly recommend it. Ask your friends. Ask your partner. For couples - do a dyad. Tell me a strength you see in me.
Take a risk, be vulnerable, let yourself be seen - and when receiving feedback, receive it fully. Let it warm your heart. Let it hold you in tough moments. Let yourself remember when you doubt yourself.
You are strong. You are seen. You are not alone.