Menopause and Sex. Resources.

When peri-menopause starts and your hormones get on that rollercoaster ride, everything changes, including your sex drive, arousal, desire, your body, your genitals, your emotions, and your relationships - your relationship with your partner, yourself, your family, your body; and your relationship with sex and pleasure.

It’s a transformation, all right. Metamorphosis. A spiritual journey, if I may.

And while it’s wise to accept the changes you are going through, it doesn’t mean that everything is now declining and will never be as good as before. Many women report that it gets even better - life, and SEX!

Here are some resources I wanted to share:


"Tantric Sex and Menopause: Practices for Spiritual and Sexual Renewal"

By Diana Richardson. I love her books “Tantric Orgasm for Women”, I was glad she wrote about menopause as well.

You’ve probably heard of “Wisdom of Menopause” by Christiane Northrup, but have you read her “The Secret Pleasures of Menopause”? Give it a try!

No nonsense approach to Menopause form a OB/GYN Dr. Jen Gunter "The Menopause Manifesto" She is the author of "The Vagina Bible", and she tells it like it is. Health. Facts. Feminism.

And if you are looking for a non-traditional approach: "Menopausal Years: The Wise Woman Way: Alternative Approaches for Women 30-90"by Susun S. Wed

If sex became painful or uncomfortable, as it often does through the transition, there are many things you can do.

If it is dryness - see info on Lubricants below.

If it is pains - as always, talk to your doctor about it and in the meantime read

"Heal pelvic pain. A proven stretching, strengthening and nutrition program for relieving pain, incontinence, IBS, and other symptoms without surgery." By Amy Stein, M.P.T.

And the best advice for women who are aging - Vaginal Renewal program from FeMani - use it as a prevention or an a rehabilitation program once you start experiences discomfort during intercourse, or if it’s been a while since you had sex:

FeMany wellness is a brilliant resource for women and it's all about sex.

Here’s their extensive guide to sex in menopause (including Good Sex Diet)

Lubricant is your best friend when it comes to menopausal changes - dryness, sand paper feeling, burning sensations. It’s not fun, but often there’s a very simple solution. Find what works for you, avoid petroleum and glycerin if you are sensitive and make sure you do your research if you use condoms or toys.


I hope this was helpful. We are just starting this conversation.