Daily Double Practice
Today I wanted to share another relationship tool from one of my favourite teachers, Dr. Ellyn Bader of the Couples Institute.
By the end of the year I will introduce you to all of my teachers. Once I learn and love something, I can’t help it, I have to share.
This practice is called “The Daily Double” - and it works like this:
Twice a day say or do something that communicates to your partner that you love, value, adore or appreciate them.
It works best when you commit for at least a 30 day challenge. I mean it’s nice if you practice for a day, but imagine the difference it would make if you were committed for a month? Imagine the difference it would make for your partner, yourself and your relationship?
You are rewiring your brain to look for all the good stuff. It is way way too easy to see all the things we don’t like, we often don’t hesitate and blurt it out right away. But the good stuff - how often we take it for granted, or say “my partner knows I appreciate him or her”. Well, even if they know, tell them again.
Most of us are chronically under appreciated.
Here’s an article by Ellyn that talks about way how to show your appreciation.
and there’s even a downloadable 30 day challenge calendar.
Who’s up for a challenge? Let’s do it!