Apache Wedding Blessing

I’m getting ready for my wedding ceremony and in my search for different ideas I came across the words used in an Apache wedding ceremony.

I thought it was very beautiful, but I also thought it summarizes everything we are talking about here, that every couple could use. The tools of modern couples' therapy in 5 sentences.

Tenderness. Kindness. Responsibility. Connection. Focus on what’s important.

I just wanted to share.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together.

Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness, and kindness that your connection deserves.

When frustration, difficulties, and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives—remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.

And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

This is the site where you can read about wedding vows from different cultures and traditions: