April was a Self Responsibility month. Accountability. Taking responsibility after a fight (being able to own my part in it, apologizing, taking responsibility for a quick repair). Self responsibility for my feelings and emotions. Taking responsibility for my needs and wants. Noticing my projections. Noticing that when I’m unhappy, tired, hungry, and especially when I am sleep deprived, I have a tendency to let it spill onto others, instead of being able to take care of me.
Today I want to share with you some of the books I’ve been reading about relationships, healing and intimacy. Sex and Desire: "The Heart of Desire. Keys to the Pleasures of Love." By Stella Resnick, PhD. 2012. Fantastic book for couples who’ve been together a while and wonder where did the passion and desire go; and most importantly what can we do about it. "Love Worth Making. How to have ridiculously great sex in a long-lasting relationship." Stephen Snyder. M.D. Ignore
It’s a great question - and I wish there was a simple answer. But of course there isn’t one. Every person and every couple is unique, they’ll need an individual approach. One size fits all just doesn’t work. Let’s see some typical issues we’d address in session - and hopefully that would help you see how many sessions are needed. Conflict resolution. Are you fighting all the time, and what’s the impact? Are you re-traumatizing each other? Are you lacking communication skills?