Dr. John Gottman is well known for his study where he can predict if the couple will stay together or get a divorce just by watching how they deal with a disagreement. His accuracy rate was remarkably over 90%. He uses a metaphor of four horsemen to predict the end of the relationship. The four horsemen are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. In this post I will briefly discuss all 4 as well as their antidotes, tools that you can use instead, that will suppo

“Peace is just a thought away” ~ Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor When I was in school I, of course. had to read a lot books. And I love reading. Always had. The only problem was that I had to read a lot of books that I thought were outdated, and honestly not at all useful. I was very disappointed because there were so many books I wanted to read, written by people who I fell in love with. Written with humanity and kindness. Written by psychologists who understood the sacredness of thi

This is a really fun and a really sweet game for couples. It'll help shift the mood, to connect, to make a deposit into your relationship bank account. It will make you smile and it'll warm your heart. Try it a few times and see what happens. You can play it with your friends or with your kids too. INSTRUCTIONS: Turn toward each other and and look into each other's eyes. 1. Decide who will be “It”. "It" will receive positive compliments, acknowledgments or appreciation. You